Just like everybody else

There's a reason why most people don't remain friends with their exes once they've split up. I've been the exception to that rule.

That's changed today.

I'm cutting off ties. I've paid my dues.

I haven't mentioned it to many people, but I've decided to have my first marriage annulled. It's a long process, and it brings up a lot of memories I have long since buried. But it's time to do it. I've waited so long to have it done because I didn't want to visit old ghosts. I've waited too long.

So I filled out paperwork the beginning of this year. I wrote out a complete history, starting with our childhoods and ending with the divorce itself. They need all that info to make a decision. I hated every minute of it. I got through it. My mom, Kim, Susana, Kevin, and Jessica were all kind enough to write out formal testimony as witnesses to the marriage and its inevitable end. They did it quickly, efficiently, and out of the goodness of their hearts, and I can't thank them enough. Nobody wanted to go back there, but they did simply because I asked them to.

In May, I went in and gave my formal verbal testimony. Rather unpleasant. The Msgr. assigned to my case mentioned that they had sent Chris a questionnaire as well, but he hadn't returned it. No big surprise.

A month later, I received a letter from the Diocese stating that they were holding my case up waiting for Chris's testimony. Since it wasn't mandatory he testify, I had no idea it was being held up. I was none too happy. They asked me to contact Chris to see if he would be willing to fill out the questionnaire and return it to them as soon as possible. I asked him, telling him that the case was on hold until he answered and that it was important I know immediately. He apologized and said he'd fill it out and send it in that very night.

2 weeks go by. I was planning on calling the Diocese today to see what the status of my case is. So yesterday, I shoot Chris a quick email to find out exactly when he sent the questionnaire in. My email gets ignored, which is unusual. I write another today in case he was maybe out of work yesterday. I finally get a reply, and it's "Oh, I've been busy. I never filled it out. It hasn't been sent."

My response... "Don't even bother. Forget it."

I called the Diocese and told them he was not cooperating and they would not receive his testimony. They'll be moving along without it.

What bothers me the most is that he knew how important this was and that he actually said, "I swear I'm not trying to mess this up on purpose" or something to that effect. That makes me question his motives even more.

So this is me saying goodbye. I'm done.