Well I've been afraid of changing 'cause I've built my life around you

We ended up having our talk yesterday. I got home, and I could tell he was on edge, hoping we could. When I asked if he was ready to talk now, he kind of breathed a sigh of relief and said yes.

Ellie was napping on the sofa (she never does that so late in the day - very strange), so we sat on our bed together to talk. Harry had not only written his list down, but he'd written more down than I had. I made sure to let him know how much that meant to me at some point during our talk because it's very out of character for him. It showed me how important this was to him, too.

I went first because I had asked for the talk to begin with, and well, he was kind of scared shitless. After my initial foray into conversation, basically saying what I had written here yesterday, we seemed to jump a major hurdle. Suddenly, we were seeing a little more eye-to-eye. The rest of our list pretty much coincided with each other, much to both our surprises.

I'm not going to delve into exactly what was said, but we made some major progress yesterday. It went even better than I expected. Time will tell if what we said to each other has follow through and if we keep up what we decided as monthly talks (weekly seemed a little too much). What I can say is that each of us held ourselves accountable for the problems we have. It wasn't all "you did this" or "you said that". We quickly and easily accepted blame for our parts in letting things get to this stage. We were very honest with each other.

Sometimes you have to say the hard things to get to the good stuff.

Both of us are happy with the decisions we made yesterday. Both of us felt a weight lifted after we finished speaking. And both of us realized how much we still love the other. That's the most important thing.

I just want to take this opportunity to thank everyone that commented or reached out to me yesterday to show your support. It was overwelmingly caring of you, and I don't think you'll ever really know how much it means to me. For friends to just say, "I'm here for you" without needing to pick apart everything I say is exactly what I need(ed). Thank you, thank you, thank you. You're all wonderful.